Category Archives: self

Let go of the outcome

Whatever the situation that vexes you the most right now, let go of the vision of how it ought to be. Surrender every shred of expectation. Do what needs doing but do not expect a reward. Do not dread the … Continue reading

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Rumination, or obsessive thinking, and what to do when it becomes too much

Many of us believe that we are our thoughts, or rather many of us don’t stop to think whether what our minds are telling us in the form of thoughts is true or not, because the belief that thoughts are … Continue reading

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Burn baby burn. What can we do with ourselves in times of coronavirus.

Who is up to what these days? I volunteer with the Hear Me App where I talk to folks from all over the world who need someone to talk to. And everyone is struggling, myself included. I’ve spent the first … Continue reading

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Do you feel lonely tonight? #happiness #quora

I write about happiness and meaning here but also on Quora. I wanted to re-post my answer below (source). When you feel the familiar chill breeze of the void opening within you, the deafening vibration of the growing vacuum, the … Continue reading

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Emptiness practice – spending time with family during holidays

Remember this post? This year I am blessed with family staying over the holidays – paraphrasing Ram Dass, I will uncover my “secret stash” and “burn in the fire, cooking my seeds” 🙂 Normally I would lose my shit at … Continue reading

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Emptiness practice – stuff

Inspired by Ram Dass’s story of burning his possessions, his “stash”, and hopefully an impending house move (nomads never stop! 😊), I decided to go through the “memory boxes” where I store sentimental stuff – photos, travel souvenirs, small gifts … Continue reading

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My book on love addiction is now out on Amazon!

It’s a truth universally acknowledged, that a writer in possession of a blog, must be in want of publishing a book 🙂 I went the self publishing route and did it. My guide to healing love addiction is now available … Continue reading

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New practice – a sensory deprivation tank

As you know, I love trying new practices that allow me to prod my unconscious 🙂  While researching what next practice to try, I learned that FloatWorks offer floating  in a sensory deprivation tank (ok, pod) in London and I … Continue reading

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Make art even if it sucks – Hitrecord ‘Death’ remix

Making art is something I have missed when I was busy. In my archives I dug out this cheery 🙂  short film that I remixed using rewfoe (Hitrecord user) imagery when I was creating with Hitrecord. Perhaps I should return … Continue reading

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Chicken Ryaba, buddhism and emptiness – an interpretation on an old Russian folk tale

As one of their first fairy tales, children in the Russian speaking countries used to get told an old Russian folk tale about Kurochka (Chicken) Ryaba. It is a very simple story (see below*) that is not so simple once … Continue reading

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Art therapy – a piece of summer #happiness

I wanted a memento of summer for dark winter days. I did some research and found this Lego idea on internet. In retrospect I could have knit it rather than use plastic but here we are. Art therapy and seasonal … Continue reading

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The day was crisp/ The light was new/ Autumn has come/ Like deja vu

Man, I forgot how much I love autumn. I was washing dishes one day and glanced outside – the light was different. It was soft as if I was in an oil painting. The angle has changed. Sunlight in autumn … Continue reading

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If it’s not fun, don’t do it! And if you must do it, make it fun!

What do you do when you are mini retired? Well, art, of course. In the Episode 94 of the Here and Now podcast Ram Dass tells a hilarious story about cooking a lobster with his father as a buddhist (from … Continue reading

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Postcard paradise. Emptiness and holidays.

You can go as far as you wish – and yet, there you are. Hope you have a joyful holiday and enjoy this poem.

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Letters to myself. On emptiness.

When you feel the familiar chill of the void opening within you, the deafening vibration of the growing vacuum, the infinite sinkhole of the Big Empty, don’t do what you usually do – reach for the phone, like a Pavlovian … Continue reading

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