My book on love addiction is now out on Amazon!

Posted on December 12, 2019 by lolkin

It’s a truth universally acknowledged, that a writer in possession of a blog, must be in want of publishing a book 🙂 I went the self publishing route and did it. My mini guide to healing love addiction is now available on Amazon.

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On mudita, joy for others

Posted on October 17, 2021 by lolkin
Source: The Dharma of Recovery, Using Buddhist Practice and Principles to End the Suffering of Addiction

Making time for joy, prioritising it is very important. Life often becomes dull, grey and joyless if we don’t prioritise moments when we do something that excites, expands us, helps us feel alive.

This is self-centred joy. Nothing wrong with it as long as it does not harm anyone or lead to anyone’s suffering. Pure joy is necessary to nurture the soul.

In Buddhism they talk about mudita, the joy for others, appreciative joy. Now this is an interesting one to add to the list. How are you doing with mudita? Have you experienced it lately? Next time you scroll through the social media or hear a friend’s good news, is this something you could remember about and practice and see how it makes you feel?

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Nature therapy. Watching sun through the leaves.

Posted on October 16, 2021 by lolkin
@wmyueliang on TikTok

For a second, I again was a child, lying on the ground under the cherry trees, staring at the summer sun winking at me through the green canopy of the leaves…

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Happiness is pretty simple

Posted on October 10, 2021 by lolkin

I’ve had an awful flu this past week (not covid, I got tested). Let’s put it this way, I will not take for granted being able to lie horizontally and breathe at the same time. I got infected because I got frivolous with mask wearing (I am double jabbed for covid). The mask goes back on and the flu jab is to be scheduled asap!

When we are sick, priorities come into clear focus and life is simplified. I was grateful for my family, my cat and my friends. I rejoiced when I found energy again to do the most basic of tasks. And something I learned during lockdowns – always have some sort of event booked, even if it’s a small online gathering, so you have something to look forward to.

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Anger means expectations.

Posted on October 3, 2021 by lolkin

This week I did not prioritise well at work, took too much on, struggled, exploded and lost it with my colleague and boss 🤯 Oh, anger, thou shalt not leave me alone. So I made myself this video reminder:

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I entrust myself to the Buddha of Infinite Light and Life

Posted on September 26, 2021 by lolkin

I’ve been pondering recently how I am still so full of anger, righteousness, drawn to and driven by drama (the dharma of drama!), how easily I get triggered. Meditation practice and studying Buddhism helped become much more aware but not to the point that I am always successful at taking the pause between the trigger and the reaction.

Then I discover the teachings of Shin Buddhism which teaches us to awaken by embracing the suffering inherent in the day to day life. Here are interesting quotes from Taitetsu Unno’s Into the valley:

“It [Shin Buddhism] challenges people to discover the ultimate meaning of life in the abyss of the darkness of ignorance.”

“…liberation is made available to us not because we are wise but because we are ignorant, limited, imperfect, and finite.”

“…one must struggle with oneself in the midst of all kinds of entanglements in society.”

“…the self-awakening to the immersion in the swamp of anger, jealousy, insecurity, fear, addiction, arrogance, hypocrisy.”

“As James Hillman points out, “The way through the world is more difficult to find than the way beyond it.”

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Nothing Means Anything #emptiness

Posted on September 25, 2021 by lolkin
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I Gotta —> I Get To

Posted on September 18, 2021 by lolkin
@davidchoe on TikTok

I love a good reframe. This one is a powerful perspective shifter.

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Art therapy. On why magpies are awesome

Posted on September 12, 2021 by lolkin

Read the word “evil” backwards. Interesting isn’t it? 

They say that when the witch dies, she turns into a magpie. 

Yin & yang – it makes sense. Nice reincarnation. 

Magpies are considered evil in largely superstitious folklore. 

They are believed to bring bad luck, sorrow, herald death and steal stuff. 

In the shamanic tradition they are a totem, a link to the spirit world.

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New mantra. No thoughts.

Posted on September 11, 2021 by lolkin

I have recently tried this new technique. It helps to manage anxiety, over thinking (rumination), excessive worrying and instantly returns you to the present. All you do is stop thinking.

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Always be kinder than you feel

Posted on August 29, 2021 by lolkin
via Blue Morpho

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