My book on love addiction is now out on Amazon!

It’s a truth universally acknowledged, that a writer in possession of a blog, must be in want of publishing a book 🙂 I went the self publishing route and did it. My mini guide to healing love addiction is now available on Amazon.

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Non-doing does not mean inaction. Love yourself through stuckness.

While there will always be a part of you that finds comfort in complacency and overwhelm in the presence of change, the key is to encourage yourself in every step, and to be patient when results may vary, so you can support yourself in learning that positive change won’t always be fast or easy but it’s never as difficult as we believe it to be.

When we love ourselves too deeply to be stagnant and respect the divine too deeply to stand in the way of our next incredible milestone of expression, the beauty of tangible change is a gift to receive and never a punishment to endure. To find this truth and embody it fully, we must dare to love ourselves more, not less, no matter the time it takes to change, regardless how often we seem to miss the mark, and despite the kicking, screaming, begging and pleading that only needs more of your loving support to shift old patterns into new possibilities.

— Matt Kahn

My take aways from the above quote:

  • Complacency feels good because no risks are taken. Comfort zone is defined by fears.
  • Non-doing does not mean inaction.
  • It is natural to be overwhelmed by change and uncertainty.
  • Love yourself through complacency, inaction, stagnation, stuckness.
  • Trust the dharma, the process, the Universe, move out of its way and let it unfold.
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Change the world by being yourself #happiness #selflove

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What is it with us and self-love? Even the most advanced practitioners and spiritual seekers seem to struggle with it and specifically the thought of being judged by others. The infamous “what will people think” is a big one. For some people, what they think others will think or say dictates how they dress, behave, live, what they say and do, or don’t do. 

Why do so many of us have this deep rooted sense of unworthiness? What is the source of the lack of self-love so many of us – even those who grew up in a happy childhood and abundance – suffer from? How does this happen? I don’t know and plan to learn more about this one day. Today I wanted to share five practical tips and methods that I found useful in gradually learning to love myself more and worry about what others think less. 

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The light of the void. The void of the light #RamDassMusic

Source: Yours Truly

Where do you stand in relation to hope? Are you hopeful? Or is it hopeless? Both of them are traps. Best place to stand is half way between hope and hopelessness. Standing nowhere, being everywhere. Doing what you do.

— Ram Dass
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When you change the way you see things…

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…which is why I call the game Levels and Lenses 😊 if something is not going right, if I am stuck or suffering, and I can snap out of the victim mode and become aware, I change change the lenses, take different level perspectives, until I arrive at the vision of reality where it makes sense, I am at peace, one and in love with everything, where I am home.

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Open your heart and love

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Silent illumination – the meditation month challenge with Tricycle.

At the moment I am working through the Tricycle Meditation Month as a 30-day meditation challenge. I am working through 4 stages of the silent illumination practice as taught by Chan Buddhist teacher Guo Gu. The links for each week of the meditation month are below. This is a free course, but the quality of the teaching is amazing so if you take it, make a donation if you can. Happy meditating, fellow nomads! 

Week 1 (method from 10:20, progressive relaxation) 

Week 2 (method from 9:32, nostrils sensations, stomach rise n fall, all body breathing)

Week 3 (method from 17:25, sight or sound contemplation, just experiencing, moment by moment, pure awareness) 

Week 4

And a sit (combination of weeks 1 and 2 I believe). 

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Emptiness as freedom. The Void by Alan Watts.

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Have a smartphone? Now you can trip on light #psychedelic #consciousness

I  heard about stroboscopic light and its ability to induce psychedelic like states before but never had a chance to try it. It had to be done in person with an expensive machine. Well, hail the age of technological disruption, clever folks at Lumenate brought this technology to the masses and now anyone with a smartphone can trip on light (as long as they are not epileptic or sensitive to stroboscopic light – always read medical warnings and do research beforehand!). I took out a paid subscription but there is free trial also. I have just spent a week meditating on light every night and I must say it is pretty good. There were insights, realisations and tears 🙂  Again, read the medical warning carefully, be safe and let me know if you tried or try it – how did you find it? I am just glad to be back in the presence of light after a long covid winter and what seemed like a tough emptiness practice.

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When you realise you are stuck… surrender into the hopelessness #RamDass

When you realise you are stuck… you be stuck. You really be stuck. In the moment of stuckness is the key to the next liberation. It is the denial… trying to get unstuck that is feeding the stuckness. If you sit with it and you say – isn’t it a far out melodrama… you start to get space. Realise the total hopelessness of your predicament. You can’t get yourself out of being stuck anyway. And it is in that surrender into the hopelessness, herein lies the hope. You gotta let the horror show be to let the changes to occur.

— Ram Dass

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Thank You Plant Medicine Day – join our online sharing circle this Sunday!

To celebrate Thank You Plant Medicine Day this week, me and a couple of friends are hosting an online sharing circle this Sunday 21/2 at 2pm GMT for fellow folks who want to chat about and share their experiences with the plant medicines. Email lola.askarova@gmail.com for details if interested.

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