How much money do you need to be happy?

I’d like to build on the last week’s blog post and talk about money vs happiness. I recently learned that scientists did quantify the ‘money vs happiness threshold’. Actually seeing the number somewhat has shaken my conviction that ‘to be happy, one needs to be rich’. I am definitely re-evaluating this belief along the lines of ‘actually, perhaps one first needs to know what they are doing with their life (as in, have meaning), then get more money if they can to enable this further’. Lack of money, perceived or not, will not stop someone who is really driven from achieving their dreams.

Can you guess how much one needs to be happy, before their level of happiness flatlines despite of income increases? $75,000 per year. This is from the often cited study by Daniel Kahneman and Angus Deaton (full source here). In their study, they found that while “life evaluations rise steadily with income,” emotional well being (in industrialized countries) drops off at about $75,000 a year.

Beyond $75,000, money is important for life evaluation, but does nothing for happiness, enjoyment, sadness, or stress. Both factors are important; it is good to have high emotional wellbeing, but it is also good to think your life is going well.

As Sonja Lyubomirsky, the expert in studying happiness, puts it, it’s not how rich you are, it’s what you do with the money.

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How rich do you feel now? #happiness

I woke up. I exercised. I am finally feeling better after a vicious cold. It’s a long weekend here in the UK. I am listening to an album I found on iTunes yesterday, Soviet Central Asia Music (1930-1950). I found this cool list of 10min meditations with instructions. Promise of summer still looks slim – it’s freezing. Yet, everything is perfect, I feel balanced and light inside, and the light is on. Here and now. You know 😊 

I hope I can share this feeling with you even if you woke up in a very different mood / are having an aweful day. Check out meditations above. Alternatively, reflect on this infographic – what are the chances of you being you? Write down 3 things you are grateful for that recently happened in your life. And if you think you are lacking anything, you are not rich enough, think about this quote from Timber Hawkeye. How rich do you feel now? 

  

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Measure how happy you are daily. Then improve your positivity diet

As part of the positive psychology class that I am taking, I learned about this web site created by the happiness researcher Barbara Fredrickson. It allows you to measure your ‘positivity ratio’ daily, track it for 2 weeks and make adjustments to your life accordingly. Barbara Fredrickson says that from her research this ratio should be 3-2-1 (3 positive experiences to 1 negative, daily). This is being debated by other scientists, but nevertheless this tool provides quite an interesting perspective. As a result, you could:

introduce more opportunities to be grateful, or start a meditation practice, or start volunteering and giving more frequently, and then track your positivity ratio and see if it changes—see how those steps make a difference in your life

We track our diet and fitness in apps, why not happiness? Interesting approach!

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Don’t worry, be grumpy by Ajahn Brahm #happiness #talk

I have been sceptical of Google talks before. They seemed too long. However I am glad I stuck out with this one by Ajahn Brahm (a Buddhist monk from Australia). Even despite the poo story somewhere in the second half 🙂  Despite his jokes, through stories and laughter, Ajahn Brahm gives very important life lessons. I feel I will need to watch this talk more than once, to really let it sink in.

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How cool was Peggy in the last episode of Mad Men – she makes me smile :) #happy

Also, I just have to post these. Peggy was always my favourite character in Mad Men (and Pete). This moment in the latest episode of Mad Men is just so cool. I related to it on a number of levels 😉  Made me happy 🙂

And this moment is where TV becomes art.

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The Science of Happiness course, and how do you define happiness?

I decided to take my studies of happiness to the next level and signed up to the MOOC (massive open online course) titled The Science of Happiness from UC Berkeley. A fascinating course! (and apparently, the first positive psychology course available for free online)  Now and then, I will be sharing with you my breakthroughs on happiness and interesting thoughts stemming from the course material.

Interesting reframing exercise to begin with. I might have said before that my goal is pursuit of happiness. Well, science proved that pursuing happiness only makes one unhappy. So I recalibrated my goal accordingly – I am working on increasing my levels of happiness. This is, by the way, what The Science of Happiness course aims to do too – make one happier.

I also realised that we never do exercises here on the blog! Unbelievable 🙂  Here is one to get us started. This exercise is part of the course and is surprisingly difficult (at least it was for me). It made me pause and really think. How do you define happiness? I did not suspect that different people defined happiness so differently! Read the full question below and share your views in the comments!

How do you define happiness? On what do you base that definition? Does it stem from your first-hand experience of what makes you happy, or from your general observations about what you think constitutes happiness for most people?

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Art therapy- Agnes Lefevre on Saatchi #smile #happiness

Mmm, art that is good enough to eat 🙂  Les Macarons and Les poires by Agnes Lefevre put a smile on my face. The touch with ancient vases is very stylish imho. Off to have a pear now! Have a nice weekend!

macarons

m les poires

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There is no such thing as failure #happiness

There is no such thing as failure. Failure is just life trying to move us in another direction.

— Positively Positive

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Are you happy, right now, right here? Spring only happens once

I have been quiet for a bit. I had a very Mad Men’esque exit from my agency job, so that took some time and energy. The good news is I am very happy, I am at home, and not starting a new job for another couple of weeks, which means I’ll be able to actually catch up on what’s important – family, friends, art, film, house, life. I will actually be able to enjoy spring, and not from inside of the office building. Ah, life!

I am sitting in the sun lit balcony now, surrounded by a weird collection of edible and decorative plants that have suddenly made an appearance in my home (thank you, prankster friends!), watching the flat on the right getting cleared. It’s not a spring clean. A recluse neighbour (army vet with an alcohol problem) died there in March, and his body lay undiscovered for 2 weeks. He lived just across the wall from us and my husband talked to him now and then, so we were very shaken by his death.

It reminds me of what’s important. Life is fleeting. Are you happy, right now, right here? Or are you working yourself into the ground? Try and make time not just for earning a living but actually living. Spring only happens once a year.

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Patience and perspective. Strategies for people who piss you off.

In the last couple of months, I had to deal with a lot of negativity and a few negative people. Below is my summary of the strategies you could use to deal with someone who pisses you off. Every time you have to interact with them:

  • Imagine they are dying
  • Imagine they are Buddha
  • Find 10 positive things in them that you are grateful for
  • Remember the changing nature of all things
  • Appreciate that qualities most annoying you are the ones you possess
  • Zoom in on the details of the person (eg their eyes) to realise that your feelings towards their parts, and hence them as a whole, are neutral

Finally, we have to remember that negative people are the ones we need to clutch in our hugs and not let go. At least until they stop yelling at you 🙂 Very, very hard to do.

 

 
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Art therapy- the beautiful love story from Cirque Du Soleil

Took my breath away… Cirque du Soleil, Worlds Away. Note: this clip is not in great resolution but you can buy and stream the whole show, it is worth it… 

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Present moment reminder from Eckhart Tolle #happiness

“Suffering is necessary until you realize it is unnecessary.”

— Eckhart Tolle

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If Werner Herzog wrote a birthday card…

As you may know, I love film. One of my favourite directors is Werner Herzog. He happens to be one of the favourite directors of a good friend of mine, whose birthday it was recently. Inspired by his lovely partner, I wrote him a birthday wish as if it was written by Herzog. Here is the grumpiest birthday wish ever 🙂

Hello,

I have to say right away- I hate birthdays. Why be joyful at the fact that a person completed another year on the arduous journey to his or her life end? I don’t really know what to say on these occasions. If it was up to me, I’d deliver you a note in person. With a dwarf. Or with a crow. Dead crow. Or better still, with a live bear. Nothing like a bear as a bearer of birthday wishes. But I have to write and even worse, I have to type. Very impersonal and I just hate it. You will have to live with this, as will I. Continue reading →

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Harness the power of joy to overcome any obstacle #happiness #chopra

Ahh the infinite wisdom that is Mr Deepak Chopra! I am doing this exercise today, to decide what to do next with my script. See if it helps you too. And if interested, check out Chopra’s 5 week online programme called The Quest (it’s not cheap though).

Try this simple, 10-minute process for harnessing the power of joy to overcome any obstacle:

  1. Pick one desire. Take a minute to think about one thing you’ve been striving to make happen in your life. It could be a new job you’re after, a shift in your relationship or a health goal.  Whatever it is, write it down.
  2. Make friends with your fear. Next, write down all the reasons this goal feels hard to reach and what would happen if you never did. Ask yourself how that would feel… and then accept that feeling. Strip your fear of its power by going all the way to the place of acceptance that the worst has already happened.
  3. Find the joy and follow it. Now do the opposite. Instead of dwelling on HOW you’re going to reach that goal and why it’s going to be so HARD to accomplish. Concentrate on the part of your goal that brings a spark of joy and delight to you — the part that makes you feel energized and alive! Let yourself experience how exhilarated you will feel when you’ve reached it.

    Now, close your eyes and identify the next most doable step that takes you more deeply into that joy. (Not a massive, treacherous leap to the other side of your problem.) Just one feel-good, energizing step in the direction of your heart’s joy.

  4. Repeat. Then do it again. (And again.) Don’t listen to the voice that says you have to conquer that problem to MAKE your dreams happen… just follow the joy.

See, most of us think it’s when we’ve overcome the obstacles and come out the other side that THEN (and only then) will we feel happy.

But what if the opposite is true? (It is.)  And it’s actually from our most relaxed, joyful, creative space that answers to our toughest problems will come to us with ease and everything we want in life can be ours effortlessly.

Mastering the art of harnessing joy to overcome obstacles is just one important step to living a life of effortless success and ease.

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Art therapy- #happiness

Upward Spiral by Steve Perrault



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