Best Meditation Apps: Happiness On The Go

I wrote about meditation before. I discovered it this year and I never looked back. I have been doing the simple one where you just focus on breathing. I then did one where you chant, loved it. And I notice the effects. It’s easier to take things easy. It’s easier to control emotions. And I feel lighter, no knots of tension, no heaviness of resistance.  Continue reading

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The True Colours Of Auroras

I would have never thought that auroras – which I imagined were mostly green – only appear as green when we view them with our eyes at night. Change the viewing instruments and all sorts of colours come out! How amazing is that! Look at these beautiful photos.

This reminded me that sometimes we need to remember that what we see and how we see it is only in our heads, and it’s in our power to change both how we view and how we feel about any given situation.

Also in our quest for new, unusual, amazing discoveries, travel is an obvious way of finding them. Yet change of perspective, revisiting, remixing the things and experiences already around us, for a true nomad can have a very similar effect.

Today or tomorrow, find the most mundane thing that you can see, and uncover its hidden colours – make it become amazing and new and beautiful through either a change of angle with which you view it or the way you think about it.

Stay happy.

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The Hitchhiker’s Guide To Happiness

I’ve just finished reading The Hitchhiker’s Guide To The Galaxy and The Restaurant At The End Of The Universe, and I must say these are among the best books I’ve ever read. Continue reading

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Art by Offenders, Secure Patients and Detainees

20131110-233241.jpgI have recently visited, finally, an exhibition at the Southbank centre in London called ‘Art by Offenders, Secure Patients and Detainees’. In Russian language, there is a saying which means something like ‘Never say never to begging or prison’. Everything can happen, sometimes by an unfortunate twist of fate. In fact, the founder of the Koestler trust who organised the exhibition was a political detainee at some point. Mental health issues are as likely. Continue reading

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Strategies For Happiness: Simplification

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I love mornings like this. When the morning air is crisp and full of possibilities. When you wake up grateful for having another day and full of energy to make things happen, and hope, and in general are unstoppable. When you want to get things done. 

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Living In Holland vs UK

So I have been promising this for a while. A post about Holland and why I decided to leave after 6 months. I intentionally left some time to reflect on the experience and also to allow my grey matter to distil the experiences lived and the lessons learned into a structured, interesting post. Gosh, you are truly getting your money’s worth here! 🙂  Continue reading

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Alternative Time

Great quote on another positivity/ happiness blog I follow, Positively Positive, today:

Finish every day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense. — Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Dutch Erwten Soup Recipe

I am a big soup fan. A bowl of well made, hearty, healthy soup always makes me happy. During my recent Dutch escape, I discovered erwten soup which was immediately added to my fave soups list. Perfect for chilli days, it’s not an easy one to make due to long cooking time, but I may attempt it nevertheless, because it’s delicious. Here is a recipe. If all fails, I’ll look for Dutch cafes or shops in London, they should have it. Have a nice day! Have some soup 🙂

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How To Be Smart About Fashion

I am now in London where I plan to be based for a while, and moving has been inspiring some breakthroughs, in terms of understanding myself better and also coming up with life hacks.

I will share them here over the next couple of weeks (there is still that War and Peace post I promised about Holland vs UK, I remember!). Let me start with the shallowest and the smallest.

You can not live in London and not be aware of fashion. It’s another official language of the capital – impeccable, achingly cool, highly individual, yet with subtle commonalities recognisable to others in the tribe. Londoners may be wearing absolutely mismatched things, second hand head to toe (or vintage as they say here) or something out-of-this-world eccentric, but it will work and it will look cool. Fashion in London is a work of art, a way of self expression, something taken as seriously as oral hygiene and afternoon tea.

As a result, shopping is a serious business here, and choice is enormous. It’s hard not to get sucked into the world of fast fashion and find yourself spending a lot on clothes and accessories. It’s equally hard to resist the appeal of luxurious brands (‘it’s an investment, baby’). Londoners make it look so easy.

There is planet, there is budget, there is limited storage space and there is not wanting to spend your hard earned pounds on smth you will only wear once. So here is my newly invented life hack – have a theme.

Decide what you are this year and buy only essentials that fit into the theme. The theme may be on fashion or not. As long as it works for you. My theme for this year is 3MS – Military, Matrix, Minimalist and Sci fi. Year is important because it protects you from seasonality of fast fashion. Essentials is another key word – only buy items that you need to fill the gap in your wardrobe. If you never wear skirts, don’t buy one. If you have 5 polo necks, you probably don’t need another one. If you have an item that does not go with anything, but you want to keep it, buy something to go with it. And so on.

Shopping when you have a theme is easy – you don’t overspend and you are in control. No to this girlie retro coat, no matter how cute or soft it is. No to these great shiny opulent heels. Yes to the grey chunky sweater (Matrix) and cool Alexander Wang like top (Minimalist).

Life simplified. Happy 🙂

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Let’s Call It A Life Experiment

I am staying with an Airbnb host for the first time. I am quite excited about it. My host is a lovely interesting woman, and overall I did enjoy the stay.

Where am I? In London, the one and the only. And here is the thing – I am coming back, soon.

My Dutch experiment proved to be just that – a 6 months life experiment. On reflection, it was a nice break, which provided plenty of perspective.

The irony of it is that I wanted a relaxed lifestyle and I did get just that in Holland. However it’s little things, little conveniences that I’ve grown so used to in the UK and realised their importance once I had to let them go in Holland. It’s subtle cultural differences. These things made all the difference.

London is far from ideal. Crime is high, politicians are mad and prices sky high. Yet somehow London, UK work for me. I feel at home here. It took relocating to Holland to realise that.

So this is my news. If my Easyjet flight back is not as bad as the one this way, I promise to write a detailed post about what these deal breaking little differences were.

Hope you are all well and whatever you are doing is going well. If not, just call it a life experiment, wrap it up and move on to something new 🙂

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The Secret To Successful Marriage And Relationship

A bit of an unusual post today. I don’t recommend books a lot. The last couple I’ve been on and on about were Power of Now and Escape Manifesto. But this book is amazing. If you are in a long term relationship, married for more than a couple of years and/or have kids, read on.

Love and sex. Intimacy and desire. There was so much said, debated, researched on these subjects. Yet judging by divorce rates, we are no happier. Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel is a genius new angle on what’s going wrong. The fastest, cheapest and best marital therapy you can find, in my opinion, and your significant other does not need to be involved.

If therapy is not your thing and you are lucky to be living in a marital bliss, then you can read for an interesting take on the state of modern marriage. It’s a very well written, well researched book, the author is a marital therapist with years of multi cultural experience and unusual view on things. I am reading it with interest and as I discovered a couple of life changing insights, I thought I absolutely had to share.

If you have no time to read, you can watch Esther Perel’s equally fascinating TED talk, which is how I was introduced to her ideas in the first place, although book obviously goes a lot deeper. You can also follow her on Twitter, where she shares the latest of her insight.

Hope you find it useful. Be happy!

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Dutch Geometry & Dinosaur Dreams

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This week I have been a bit on fire art wise. Despite having no drawing or graphic skills whatsoever, I became possessed with drawing a night view from my window – the geometry of Dutch roofs does this to people. Several runs up and down the stairs to the bedroom, a tortured notebook and a couple of hours later I have birthed this, titled simply ‘Roofs’. Now a part of Volendam will always be with me I guess.

I have not stopped at this though. A couple of years ago I saw a dream with a dinosaur. And one moment was so vivid that it stayed with me forever. I always wanted to put it on paper but always found excuses not to, especially that I can not draw. So I did it digitally. Here is my Dinosaur Dream.

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Change Is Our Everything

I am a big fan of Escape The City community and this picture of the week in their recent newsletter is just so spot on. I was going to post my latest piece on change for Hitrecord here anyway, here it is below. Whatever you are changing in you, your life or thinking, you are already half way there, because action ALWAYS beats inaction.
One thing we can be sure of is change. Last year I unleashed a roller coaster of change and I am still in a free fall. I had my up and down moments. Doubts did eat me alive and still occasionally have me for breakfast. Fears, anxiety, worries – radical change has strong side symptoms. God knows what shores I will end washed up on.
Like climbers need special equipment to keep them latched on to the mountain, we nomads of life require some anchors. A bit like that spinning top in the Inception. Two things keep me grounded during the change I am inflicting upon my life and myself – knowing that in the grand scheme of things it will all work out in the end (it may not be how I planned it, but it will definitely be as it was meant to be) and seeking out even more change, which paradoxically leads to some sort of balance. 
I am afraid, obviously, but not as much as of being stuck in the limbo, when things are not happening, when sails are down because there is no breeze, getting into routine, getting stale – no movement, boredom, predictability, I hate that. Change is my everything. But after a couple of exciting, tumbling, feet-onto-head months, I must say I am ready for the next plateau. Then, cycle repeats 🙂
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To All The Nomads Out There

I have installed Ted app on my smartphone. I should have done it long time ago really. Now instead of watching my favourite TV shows (which are on summer break anyway) before going to bed, or in other words passive media consumption 🙂  I watch Hitrecord (which will soon air on Pivot) and Ted. I ran into this video by Pico Iyer about what we call home in a modern reality of hyper mobility. And like a Kazakh with the British passport living in Holland with my Scottish husband, I could not agree more. Being nomadic, travelling a lot, living in different countries is great as long as you have found or are finding yourself. Because home is inside us. It’s who we are. If you move places searching for yourself, you are probably not doing it right. Watch this, it is a fantastic talk.

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Little Things, Joy And John Newman

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Since I started a family and had to become our financial manager, not very exciting things like budgeting, saving and meal planning became reality. All I can say – automation is key 🙂

I think I have proclaimed my recently acquired love for the £1 shops somewhere here already? Well, I found sort of an equivalent in my village 🙂  And this is what I found there lately! It’s a hedgehog tape measurer 🙂  How kawaii is this thing!?

What I am trying to say is that it is ok to derive joy from little things. And another great idea to boost happiness – listen to a song. I am currently obsessed with John Newman, this guy is like a cross between Amy Winehouse and Elvis Presley. He will be big. I LOVE this latest song of his.

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