This one is a great example of reframing – taking a common fear and what we perceive as a negative thing (1), then turning it on its head and making it work for you.
One of the things we hate most is rejection. Fear of rejection is a very powerful force which guides our actions, consciously or not. This is why we don’t ask someone on a date (or even say hello), why we don’t ask for promotion or buy things we don’t need (just so we are approved of, yes, by the sales person).
Ask yourself – what does fear of rejection hold you from? Could it be big great things? New life filled with new opportunities? And if Scott’s arguments are true, then could regularly practising to reduce your fear of rejection be a way to success and happiness? How about getting rejected as a daily exercise, or a rejection therapy?
I am convinced, next time I get rejected, no matter how big or small rejection is, I will make a conscious effort to reframe it and make it a positive experience. I will learn from it and I will not give myself hard time for failing. I will acknowledge it, smile and move on.
My friends, let’s not be afraid to ask, to get rejected and let’s be happy about it! Cheers to that!
(1) There is no right and wrong. There is no good or bad. Everything is neutral. Polarity – good, bad, positive, negative – is what we assign to events in our minds. We then react accordingly. Our emotions, our reactions are a horrifically subjective thing (horrifically because it horrifies me personally).